30 something


The other day one of my closest friends told me I was the most together person she knows and I don’t give myself enough credit for it. An absolute compliment I know, but to be honest I was left a bit speechless by it. Why? because it’s made me wonder if I’m very good at hiding what is often happening on the inside.

I’m not even really sure what being a ‘together person’ means, I would have thought it symbolises someone who has their life sorted and if that’s the case then I wouldn’t say that’s me. I’m happy with life now but I still have areas I need to sort. However maybe that is just it, the fact that I’m happy with life and myself while believing the rest will sort itself out in good time.

When I think back then compared to my past then yes I am definitely a together person now. My 20’s were spent in a toxic relationship and the first part of my 30’s was a life of stress, feeling unappreciated and drama. That then turned into a period of loneliness, depression and not having a clue where life was heading. Each time I was lucky enough to know I needed to do something to change the situation, from leaving behind a job I loved to taking time out to find me again or having the courage to get a life coach when I felt I was in a dark well and couldn’t get out. Don’t get me wrong it was difficult and took a lot of work but I’ve been able to get there.

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It’s because of all this that I would never consider myself that ‘together person’, despite having a life I now like. I still get times when I’m low, when my anxiety is back or my shyness has taken over again. The difference now is that I’ve learned my coping mechanisms and I’m willing to push myself out of my comfort zone in a bid to overcome the crippling shyness that has plagued my life… well apart from when I can’t even make conversation with the guy I like because the above takes over! But I’m working on it!

Getting to a point in life where you’ve made enough changes to feel happy, calm and look forward to the future is a joy. It isn’t necessarily an easy process and I still have moments of doubt and self loathing but overall I’ve become strong, independent and laid back enough to deal with different situations and if that means I’m a together person then good.

So about me… I’m Katy, 30 something, producer, blogger, one time stylist, coeliac and over-thinker who’s battling shyness. Starting this blog has been something I’ve thought about for a long time, I’ve always loved writing and telling my stories but sometimes building the confidence to put yourself out there is the hardest part. For several years now I’ve had a gluten and dairy free food blog (katycookedwhat.com check it out if you want) but now I want to talk about more than just food.     

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A Bit More About Me…

My 30’s have been the unexpected. I had a good job as a radio producer which I left, deciding I needed to do something else. I did the whole taking time out to ‘find myself’ but it turns out it’s quite an expensive process!  So I became a fashion stylist, worked in Paris, came back to Scotland and then moved to London to work in production. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side but it was an experience and it’s given me a lifetime of memories. 

I wise man once said to me as long ‘as you’re happy that’s the main thing in life as long as you’re happy’. These are words I decided to follow and now I’m lucky enough to do a job I’m passionate about, passing on what knowledge I have to young creatives who want to work in the world of media.

With me, there’s always a something happening… funny, random or just feeling anxious and wondering about where life is headed. Being in your 30’s doesn’t always mean your life is sorted.